EDUCATION AND MARRIAGE

Written by S Thang Lien


Thangboi and Kimi were student at the state university. They were deeply in love, and a bid starry eyed. They plan to married in the summer season. But their parent thought they should wait. But Thangboi and Kimi won out. The wedding took place in the church with a beautiful fashion. Two very grateful happiness of honeymoon was again over and then back to their college.

To help the bride, he took an evening job. After short time, he wanted to keep Kimi look like a Queen that she was. Then before long they discovered that a baby was on the way.

After some years, they got a beautiful son. From there the problems were started. And some of the bliss began to vanish. Soon there were disagreements and honest to arguments.

It was evident that their marriage was in struggles with Thangboi’s education. Although Kimi’s father offered to lend them some money, Thangboi would not hear of it. He felt that if he was old enough to get married, he was old enough to pay his own way too. Kimi thought that if she had to quit college for the shake of the baby, then why couldn’t Thangboi do the same? Besides she argued, “we are going to need more money. The apartment would not be big enough, and we could use some new clothes”. And maybe she was right! Then what to do?

Although more and more College students are married while they are in the batches (College).The withdraw rate among them was high. Marriage and under graduate education do not mixed too well.

It is hard to believe when we are in love, but actually your marriage can wait more easily than your Education. Those who leave college because of marriage responsibilities find it extremely difficult to return and finish their course. Usually they never make way to back it to, eventhough they may have left with the best of intentions to continue college later.

The story wouldn’t have such an unhappy ending if a couple merely left college then settled down to daily works and married life. But as the lesson learned from Psychologist who counsels with many young married couples, we after see more unfortunate outcome. The ambitious fellow or girl who starts to college then drops out for marriage is not content to settle down with an education. The result? Frustration that finds no solutions; and frustration that keeps one from fully enjoying in his daily work and his family.

So, you see that safest and most reasonable arrangement is to get your education first. The additional years you spend in college add greatly to your maturity. You will then have much more to offer your partner… In whatever you do in education or in marriage the best thing is to start right. The first thing to be first. The very first verse of the first book of the Bible says “…in the beginning God…” So you put ‘God’ first, and begin with Him. Then He will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go. He will guide you with His eyes (Ps.32: 8)