By : M Kaimuanthang/IFP
Lamka, Nov 15: Though the works of NGOs in the district have had much impact on reduction of the much taunted stigma and discrimination of people living with HIV/AIDS still the vestige has remained and many of them are facing the problem.
The case study of an NGO called Diocesan Social Service Centre has revealed that a girl Mary by name (not the real name ) has the misfortune of having lived in a broken family since her childhood due to the disastrous marriage of her parents.
Her parents got separated when she was merely a toddler and for that matter had to be put in a children’s home at Saikot to grow up and know the hard realities of life.
Mary at that point of time was a sweet beautiful girl and was under the paternal care of her grandfather who supported her in every possible way, the case pointed out.
Having been mature, she came out of the home somewhere in the year 1996-1997 which was accidentally a period of turmoil. By then she led a good and very Christian way of live, said the case study.
Being unlucky during all this while she happened to fall in love with a boy who was an ex-drug user and they married the next year in 1997.
That was the start of her life’s ordeal as she had unkowingly but steadily come in contact with the disease through her husband.
During the first two years of their married life they were blessed with a son but then their status came to light during the second pregnancy, 8 months running, when Mary had udergone a blood test. The blood tested positive.
Soon her in-laws were up in arms levelling charges on Mary of infecting their dotted son with the disease and claiming his future was doomed.
The case study further pointed out that Mary was not only illtreated by her in-laws but her husband who was morally deteriorating. All this treatment meted out to Mary made her life like hell. "I felt like crying but that was of no help and when I contemplated about running away my kids were there," Mary was quoted as saying by the society.
The rejection of Mary by the in-laws was so great that the couple were made to live in a separate home.
There come a new development much to the relief of Mary as her husband one fine day disclosed his past habbits and how he had come in contact with HIV/AIDS.
But the husband did not mend his ways and instead took drugs side by side with wine and became an alcoholic that caused much more problems to the family.
Out of sympathy her in-laws took them back to the family but that was a plot for Mary as the boys parents didn’t soften their stand over the cause of the couples contact with AIDS.
The case study revealed that the parents heaped more charges and accussations on Mary though she tried to convince tham sayng it was not her fault but her husband’s while even telling them of his past life’s story. But that was not so sweet to the ears of the parents and she was later turned out from the family.
It was now a little over two months that she was living like a vagabond. She gave her second child to the in-laws and miissed them, unable to see them.
At times she tried to stay at her own mother’s home but was not able to do that as she was married and lived a different world and lifestyle.
Meanwhile, she is also undergoing an ART and her only plan is to go to Delhi where she will not hear anymore about her children.
The Imphal Free Press
Lamka, Nov 15: Though the works of NGOs in the district have had much impact on reduction of the much taunted stigma and discrimination of people living with HIV/AIDS still the vestige has remained and many of them are facing the problem.
The case study of an NGO called Diocesan Social Service Centre has revealed that a girl Mary by name (not the real name ) has the misfortune of having lived in a broken family since her childhood due to the disastrous marriage of her parents.
Her parents got separated when she was merely a toddler and for that matter had to be put in a children’s home at Saikot to grow up and know the hard realities of life.
Mary at that point of time was a sweet beautiful girl and was under the paternal care of her grandfather who supported her in every possible way, the case pointed out.
Having been mature, she came out of the home somewhere in the year 1996-1997 which was accidentally a period of turmoil. By then she led a good and very Christian way of live, said the case study.
Being unlucky during all this while she happened to fall in love with a boy who was an ex-drug user and they married the next year in 1997.
That was the start of her life’s ordeal as she had unkowingly but steadily come in contact with the disease through her husband.
During the first two years of their married life they were blessed with a son but then their status came to light during the second pregnancy, 8 months running, when Mary had udergone a blood test. The blood tested positive.
Soon her in-laws were up in arms levelling charges on Mary of infecting their dotted son with the disease and claiming his future was doomed.
The case study further pointed out that Mary was not only illtreated by her in-laws but her husband who was morally deteriorating. All this treatment meted out to Mary made her life like hell. "I felt like crying but that was of no help and when I contemplated about running away my kids were there," Mary was quoted as saying by the society.
The rejection of Mary by the in-laws was so great that the couple were made to live in a separate home.
There come a new development much to the relief of Mary as her husband one fine day disclosed his past habbits and how he had come in contact with HIV/AIDS.
But the husband did not mend his ways and instead took drugs side by side with wine and became an alcoholic that caused much more problems to the family.
Out of sympathy her in-laws took them back to the family but that was a plot for Mary as the boys parents didn’t soften their stand over the cause of the couples contact with AIDS.
The case study revealed that the parents heaped more charges and accussations on Mary though she tried to convince tham sayng it was not her fault but her husband’s while even telling them of his past life’s story. But that was not so sweet to the ears of the parents and she was later turned out from the family.
It was now a little over two months that she was living like a vagabond. She gave her second child to the in-laws and miissed them, unable to see them.
At times she tried to stay at her own mother’s home but was not able to do that as she was married and lived a different world and lifestyle.
Meanwhile, she is also undergoing an ART and her only plan is to go to Delhi where she will not hear anymore about her children.
The Imphal Free Press
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