WHAT IS LOVE ?
Prominent researchers have broken up love into main parts:
Prominent researchers have broken up love into main parts:
Passionate love which involves continuously thinking about the loved one and also involves warm sexual feelings and powerful emotional reactions. Companionate love is having trusting and tender feelings for someone who is close to you.
Now one of the best-known theories of love (which means an educated guess that isn't proven fact) is Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.
The three components of the Triangular Theory of Love are:
Now one of the best-known theories of love (which means an educated guess that isn't proven fact) is Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.
The three components of the Triangular Theory of Love are:
Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time). Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other. Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship.
Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough. Now Sternberg also uses his Triangular Theory of Love to answer some of the most commonly asked questions about love:
Is there love at first sight?
This is when we are overwhelmed by passion, without any intimacy or commitment (both of which take time). Sternberg calls this infatuated love, Because there is not intimacy or commitment, infatuated love is fated to fade away.
Why do some people get married after being in love for a very short time? This is a combination of passion and commitment, but without any intimacy. Sternberg calls this Hollywood love. This is where two people make a commitment to each other based on their passion. Unless intimacy develops over time, this relationship most likely will end.
Can their be love without sex?
Ah yes, companionate love, where intimacy and commitment are present without any sexual passion.
Why doesn't romantic love last?
Passion and intimacy without commitment is Romantic love. When the passion fades, and the intimacy wanes, the relationship ends.
WHAT IS ROMANCE ?
Though this question sounds simple but it is very difficult to answer. Try it and see if you can say what romance is. Is it something to do with love? Is it togetherness and spending time with your lover? Well no it is much much more. Romance is the very essence of life. Without romance your love life will not exist. Romance is the true identity of your love. It brings out your true self and helps you be a better lover, husband and partner. Romance is a celebration of the life you live as part of a couple. It springs naturally and originates from within your heart. It makes you do things that you possibly couldn't have imagined to do otherwise. It shows you who you are and reminds you of the role you play in a relationship. Romance is not responsibility but it is caring about your responsibilities towards your lover and partner. Romance is the appreciation of two people who are celebrating the lucky coincidence that they found each other.
However often in the daily rush and work load people tend to forget about romance and so we have brought for you a list of things that you can do to keep the flame of romance burning in your heart forever.
Romance Checklist
Daily Romantic Checklist
1. Always compliment your lover.
2. Tell your lover how much you love him.
3. Say 'I love u' atleast seven times daily.
4. Spend atleast an hour together daily.
5. Give surprises or do some unexpected gesture.
6. Always call in to find out how things are with your partner.
7. Hug your partner first thing when you get up in the morning.
Weekly Romantic Checklist
1. Make it a point to spend a whole day together.
2. Do something which both of you enjoy doing together.
3. Cook her a meal.
4. Give your partner a surprise gift.
5. Give one another a good body massage followed with u-know-what.
6. Go out for a movie together.
7. Plan something special for the upcoming weekend.
Monthly Romantic Checklist
1. Plan to go out for a short trip during the weekend.
2. Go out for dinner atleast twice every month.
3. Make love more often.
4. Watch atleast two romantic movies.
5. Take your lover out for shopping and give her/him a beautiful gift.
Yearly Romantic Checklist
1. Think of an unusual way to celebrate your partner's birthday.
2. Make a new years resolution to be more creatively romantic.
3. Make Plans for your next anniversary.
4. Create a special 'Romance' category in your household budget.
5. Go out for a long vacation once in a year.
6. Plan out your next vacation.
TYPES OF LOVE
Love is slow to lose patience. It looks for a way of being constructive. It is not possessive. It is neither anxious to impress nor does it cherish inflated ideas of its own importance. Love has good manners and does not pursue selfish advantage. It is not touchy. It does not keep account (records) of evil or gloat over the wickedness of other people. On the contrary, it is glad with all good people when truth prevails. Love knows no limit to its endurance, no end to its trust, no fading of its hope. It can outlast anything. It is, in fact, the one thing that still stands when all else has fallen. - From The Bible
Love can be found in various forms. Most of these forms consist of the same elements but still each of these forms has their own separate identity and thus is characterized accordingly. We all have at one point of time experienced different forms of love and though we might not know how to term our love but we know one thing for sure and that is "we have loved".
Following are 9 types of love, see if you can recognize them.
Love Type #1
Can you guess the Name of this Type of Love? The answer is at the bottom of the page.
· Caring
· Hugging
· Kissing
· Fondness
· Closeness
· Concern
· Friendship
· Being there for the person
· A bond
· Doing things for the person
· Happiness
· Helping the person
· Holding hands
· Sharing
· Warmth
· Can be one-sided
· Not too intense
· Not sexual
Yes , you have guessed it right
The answer is Affection
Love Type #2
Can you guess the Name of this Type of Love? The answer is at the bottom of the page.
· Physical attraction
· Arousal
· Lust
· Expressed through sexual intercourse
· Commitment
· Contentment
· Excitement
· Fulfills a need
· Heart rate increases
· Intimate
· Kissing
· Touching
· Not long lasting
· Close while having sex, but not necessarily after
· Emotional
· Giving
· Happiness
· Special
· Think about the other person all the time
Yes , you have guessed it right
The answer is Sexual Love
Love Type #3
Can you guess the Name of this Type of Love? The answer is at the bottom of the page.
· Friendship
· Not sexual
· Caring
· Doing things together
· Not physical
· Supportive
· Enjoy each other's company
· Feel relaxed with the person
· Happiness
· Helping the person
· Normal behavior
· Sharing
· Trust
· Contentment
· Feel free to talk about anything
· Being reliable
· Respect
Yes , you have guessed it right
The answer is Platonic Love
Love Type #4
Can you guess the Name of this Type of Love? The answer is at the bottom of the page.
· Feel free to talk about anything
· Caring
· Helping
· Honesty
· Doing thing together
· Trust
· Sharing
· Understanding
· Sharing emotions
· Being there for the other person
· Good times
· Happiness
· Supporting
· Long lasting Loyalty
· Openness
· Sharing thoughts
· A bond
· Closeness
· Common interests
· Concern
· Feeling relaxed with the person
· Listening to each other
· Respect
· Sadness
· Sense of belonging
· Sharing experiences
Yes , you have guessed it right
The answer is Friendship
Love Type #5
Can you guess the Name of this Type of Love? The answer is at the bottom of the page.
· Candlelight dinners
· Taking walks
· Happiness Idealistic
· Want to be with the other person all the time
· Giving gifts
· Dream about the person
· Like a fairy tale
· Feel relaxed with the person
· Good times
· Physical attraction
· Sitting in front of a fireplace
· Sharing Courtship
· Doing things together
· Don't know the person very well
· Kissing
· Your world revolves around the person
· Honesty
· Glowing
· Giving
· Friendship
· Feel free to talk about anything
· Problems seem to vanish
· Sexual
· Sweaty palms
· Soft music
· Think about the person all the time
Yes , you have guessed it right
The answer is Romantic Love
Love Type #6
Can you guess the Name of this Type of Love? The answer is at the bottom of the page.
· Occurs at a young age
· A new experience
· Not long lasting
· Think about the person all the time
· Infatuation
· Feel shy around the person
· A crush
· Dream about the person
· Feel like your floating
· Initially strong, but then fades
· Painful if not reciprocated
· See only the person's good qualities
· Act immaturely
· Attraction
· Heart rate increases
· Kissing
· Sweaty palms
Yes , you have guessed it right
The answer is Puppy Love
Love Type #7
Can you guess the Name of this Type of Love? The answer is at the bottom of the page.
· Sexual
· Caring
· Intense
· Think about the person all the time
· A bond
· Heart rate increases
· Want to be with the person all the time
· Arousal
· Emotional
· Expressive
· Kissing
· Lust
· Attraction
· Don't know the person very well
· Euphoria
· Excitement
· Feel flushed
· Giving your self completely to the person
· Hugging
· Intimate
· Irrational
· Physical
· The person is the most special person in your life
· Not long lasting
· Touching
· Want to make each other happy
Yes , you have guessed it right
The answer is Passionate Love
Love Type #8
Can you guess the Name of this Type of Love? The answer is at the bottom of the page.
· Think about the other person all the time
· Not long lasting
· Physical attraction
· See only the person's good qualities
· Intrigued by some fascinating quality of the person
· Your world revolves around the person
· You don't know the person very well
· Excited when you see the person
· Being love-struck
· Heart rate increases
· Sweaty palms
· Think you're in love
· Talk about the person all the time
· Want to be with the person all the time
· A crush
· Based on first impressions
· Irrational
Yes , you have guessed it right
The answer is Infatuation
Love Type #9
Can you guess the Name of this Type of Love? The answer is at the bottom of the page.
· Commitment
· Continues regardless of the circumstances
· Long lasting
· Think about the person all the time
· Being there for the person
· Felt for only one person
· Honesty
· Sharing
· Caring
· Closeness
· Giving
· Respect
· A promise
· Sexual Trust
· Understanding
· A bond
· Devotion
· Faithfulness
· Feel free to talk about anything
· Give and take relationship
· Live together
· Openness
· Passionate
· Sacrifice
Yes , you have guessed it right
The answer is Committed Love
Stages Of Love
"Love in the heart was not meant there to stay. Love is not love till you give it away". For love to be ever lasting and eternal every one should be aware of the different stages of love and know its significance. Following are the different phases through which you will travel in your love life and only those who pass it will have an endless love.
ATTRACTION
Attraction can be defined as something, which is more than friendship and is a step towards getting ready for a relationship. Now attraction is of two types:
Physical Attraction - happens when your body reacts to another person. Heart rate increases; temperature rises, palms get sweaty; stomach flutters; throat tightens; etc. This is what will tell you that you are ready for the first contact and also whether you are comfortable in the company of the other person.
Emotional Attraction - develops next if the circumstances are right. After being drawn to a person physically, you then begin to come closer. If you find you have things in common -- hobbies, ideologies, career, education, or some other common ground -- then an emotional attraction starts to form. Sometimes an emotional attraction can occur even when a physical attraction does not. And in this case, the bond will be stronger between the two who connect, since no preconceived notions based on physical appearance has occurred.
INTIMACY
Intimacy is something, which a person experiences when you learn to trust and believe your lover. It is a close association with another person of the deepest nature. You share you thoughts, feelings, and dreams. You feel free to discuss everything with this person and you are absolutely comfortable in his company. Thus intimacy develops gradually. If you can't establish intimacy with your partner, your relationship may work for a while, but is unlikely to endure throughout the years. Intimacy is actually the path to a true, healthy and beautiful relationship.
ROMANCE
Romance is the essence of a relationship. Without romance your love life will not exist. Romance is the true identity of your love. It brings out your true self and helps you be a better lover, husband and partner. Romance is a celebration of the life you live as part of a couple. It springs naturally and originates from within your heart. It makes you do things that you possibly couldn't have imagined to do otherwise. It shows you who you are and reminds you of the role you play in a relationship. Romance is not responsibility but it is caring about your responsibilities towards your lover and partner. Romance is the appreciation of two people who are celebrating the lucky coincidence that they found each other.
PASSION
The third stage is passion, which basically means a desire for another person, which has grown to an intensity that can't be ignored. This is often where an emotional relationship turns into a physical relationship. The passion stage is very important. For from here you will understand the true meaning and nature of your relationship. If there is no passion then its best to let go but if there is passion in your relationship then it is time to go on to the next stage.
COMMITMENT
The last stage is commitment. This is when you know that you want to spend your whole life with this person you love and you can do anything for him. It is when your whole world just revolves round your lover and you take a pledge to remain true to your mate throughout good and bad times, be by his side whenever he needs you.
Thus remember all these stages if you want your relationship to last forever. Believe me love is worth the effort. All the best!
REASONS PEOPLE FALL IN LOVE
What made you fall in love with your partner?
their personality
Their romantic nature
The affection towards their partner
The respect they've shown their partner
Everything!
Their physical features
Their sense of humor
The friendship they share
A sense of bonding between each other
Their partner provides a sense of security
What makes a person romantic?
Have you ever considered why different people have different levels of romance? Some couples are so romantic that they will do all sorts of crazy and inconceivable things while for some people just dining out and watching a nice movie is their definition of romance. While it is a fact that romance varies with each and every person and so sometimes we might just be envious of our friend's boyfriend or vice versa. Well to unravel this mystery we have brought for you the answer to this question. Researches in this field believe that there are six basic romantic personality types and so romance varies from person to person. So let us explore and find out what these romantic personality types are and see in which category we fall.
EROS
Eros are erotic lovers and they desire a high level of commitment, understanding and passion. The drawback of Eros is that they are dominating in a relationship but they are faithful and give fully and intensely in a relationship. They are highly romantic and are very attractive and beautiful persons.
LUDUS
For Ludus love is a game and they are never serious in relationships. Relationships do not have great depth and importance for them. Ludus can never commit themselves in relationships and like to flirt and play around with many. Ludus tends to avoid emotional intensity. Thus they have a tendency to see love as a game which can be played with diverse partners. For them long term relationships are unlikely.
STORGE
Storge look at love as pious and pure. Love for them is a great friendship, which can never be broken. For them love is really a deep friendship which is evolving and not a mysterious, mystical emotion. They are very loving, caring and respect their partners. They have unpretentious feeling about love. Storge do not like to haste love. For them love can take a long time to develop and can last a lifetime.
PRAGMA
Pragma are the logical, rational and sensible lovers. For Pragma the head is above the heart and thus they always think twice before making any decisions. Pragma would tend to focus on desired attributes of a partner. They do not like to be dependent and so would always plan to settle down in life and then have a serious relationship. Pragma tends to find satisfaction in long term relationships.
MANIA
Mania are crazy lovers. Their characteristics are high emotion, very possessive and highly dependent in love. They are highly intensive lovers and for them the whole world revolves round their lovers. They often have hidden low self-esteem and are highly suspicious. Mania tends to be over possessive at times and are capable to being violent lovers. Mania tends to have a lack of satisfaction in relationships.
AGAPE
Agape are very tender, gentle and devoted lovers. For them happiness lies in the happiness of their partners and they are ready to endure anything to keep their lover happy. They believe in sacrifice and would rather suffer themselves than let their lover suffer. They are intense lovers and very passionate.
BODY LANGUAGE IN LOVE
You are in love but you do not know whether she/he also loves you. Well one way is to ask him/her but if you are the shy kind then here is a way by which you can come to a positive or negative conclusion.
Try On Body Language
Focus
If you're interested in someone, you focus and pay attention. If you're not interested in someone, your attention wanders. So if you're sitting with the person you like, and he/she is looking at you when you're talking, that's a great sign. The eyes have it all and thus if the person is not interested he/she will keep looking out the window, or watching other girls/men.
Dilated eyes
As they say "The eyes are the window to the soul." Thus while you are talking to the person you like, your eye pupils dialate (get bigger) when you're excited. So if someone's eyes look really big, it shows they're interested. Thus keep your eyes on him/her and observe the eyes.
Lip and Mouth Activities
A girl might bite her lip gently, or run her tongue along her lip to show that she is interested. Some girls even do this deliberately to flirt, although it rarely looks natural. If you're a girl, don't try it, unless you're really sure it looks natural.
Hair
Fiddling and playing with hair is one way to show that you are interested. Girls wrap their fingers in their hair. Guys run their hands through their hair. Note that twirling your hair is more a sign of boredom and distraction.
Arms and Hands
If the girl keeps her arms or hands closed or crossed (which is normal if its cold) then that is a clear indication that she's not feeling comfortable. Arms that are out and away from her are less 'defensive'. Also, if the woman leaves her wrist-up, it's sort of an "I trust you" motion.
Legs
Women normally like to sit cross-legged and note that it doesn't mean that she isn't interested. So forget about that and concentrate on the toes because, toes tend to react to general body energy. So if someone's feeling bored and listless, they might just lay there. But if someone is feeling excited and energetic, the toe might make little circles or bounce. Women when are interested point their toes towards the man.
The Voice
The way someone talks and especially the tone of the voice is hugely important. It will instantly tell you whether: Are they bored and weary? Are they thoughtful and quiet? Are they enthused and interested? To find out whether the person is interested in you first watch your own speech and then watch how their speech changes. If someone wants to 'get along' with someone else, they naturally match their speech patterns together. If you're interested in someone, you start to naturally speak like them, using the same tone of voice, the same loudness/softness and speed, the same phrases even.
FLOWER POWER
When you are in love the first thing that you think of is giving flowers to your sweetheart. There is a deep connection between flowers and lovers. Every flower tenders a different message and every colour means something romantic. But our best flower is always rose. Though now-a-days both men and women send flowers to each other and there are no hard and fast rules on the variety of flower sent. But we have brought for you different types of flowers with the specific meaning attached to each, which you will find very interesting. And we have also brought for you information on our favourite flower rose.
'Lemon Blossoms' means 'I promise to be true to you.'
'Orange Blossoms' means 'You are pure and beautiful.'
'Peach Blossoms' means 'I will be your forever'
'Acacia' means 'You are made for me'
'Zinnia' means 'I miss you very much'
'Cactus' means 'My hearts burns with love for you'
'Red Tulip' means 'I am madly in love with you'
'Purple Lilac' means 'I am falling in love with you'
Rose: Rose is no doubt the most beautiful flower and thus our favourite. Rose denotes many meanings. It is ofcourse the flower of love, passion, giving and understanding but seen from the more realistic angle rose shows us the way of life. It shows how to stay beautiful and spread love and compassion while living on thorns. Thus the message that it spreads is always be happy and spread happiness even if you are going through a tough time.
The different colours of rose denote the following:
Red means passionate, sensual love.
White means innocence and pure spiritual love
Pink means friendship and the beginning of the love story.
Yellow means respect and gratitude.
Confused as to how many roses to give well read on.
1 denotes 'Love at first sight'.
2 denotes 'Mutual Feelings'.
3 denotes 'I Love You'.
7 denotes 'I'm madly in love with you'.
9 denotes 'We will be together as long as we live'.
10 denotes 'You are mine girl and you are lovely'.
11 denotes 'You are my princess and my treasured one'.
12 denotes 'Promise to be always by your side'
13 denotes 'We will be friends forever'.
15 denotes 'I'm really sorry...'
20 denotes 'I will be always faithful to you'
21 denotes 'I'm committed to you'
36 denotes 'I'll remember our romantic moments for as long as I live'
40 denotes 'I love you with all my heart'.
99 denotes 'I'll love you till the day I die'
100 denotes 'I will never leave you'
101 denotes 'You are my one and only'
108 denotes 'Will you marry me?'
999 denotes 'My love will last till the end of time'
Love At First Sight
Do you think love-at-first-sight happens only in movies and fairy tales? Skeptics will tell you that there is nothing called love at first sight and it doesn't exist. But the truth is love at first sight can happen to you anywhere, any place and at any time.
At first, you get attracted to the person and basically its physical attraction since this is what we first see of the person: it's his or her body that attracts or repulses us, whether we want it or not. However, this attraction can only move beyond sexual desire if admiration develops as we get to know the other. Finally, love survives the ravages of time and routine only if we maintain a degree of shared interests and activities. So after all even if you think that you have fallen in love with the person, your love will have to survive the test of time.
You know you've fallen for him when...
· Your mind starts spinning out of control and you can't stop thinking about him. All that you do is want to be with him every moment of the day.
· You tend to overlook your loved one's faults and weakness, secretly hoping that your love will be enough to fix them all.
· You're happy when he's there; you're terribly depressed when he's gone.
· Though you are not a very compromising person but being with him has changed you and you have become a more compromising and understanding person.
When you start dating the man of your dreams, it is quite natural that you will want to touch him, kiss him and be in his arms. Psychologists have noted the first instance of physical contact is initiated by the woman three times out of four, usually in the most subtle possible manner. A slight brush of the arm or the shoulder, for example, is usually enough to tell her man that it's his turn to take some physical initiative-and that his advances won't be turned down! His body movements will play a major part in expressing his pleasure at being in your company. You must have the ability to understand whether he likes your company or not and whether he is just as much interested in you as you are.
Following are a few experiences of our readers about Love-at-first-sight
I never used to believe in it but one day I was standing in a queue in the post office and that is when I saw him. He was filling in some form. At first I couldn't see his face but then he turned around and that was when our eyes met. I felt like my heart had stopped thumping and I kept on staring at him shamelessly. He looked away but I stood there like a statue. He turned again and smiled at me. That's when I came back to my senses and smiled back. I was absolutely shocked when I saw him coming towards me. He came up to me and asked me if I had a pen. He tells me now that he had to start a conversation so he asked for a pen. But the fact is love at first sight does exist and Ashish and I have experienced it.
Neha
I always knew that one day I will meet the man of my life and fall head over heals in love with him at first sight. And though it happened late but it did happen. I had gone to this wedding where I saw him. We were introduced through a common friend and the moment we saw each other we knew that we belonged together. We got married after 6 months and are very happy.
Malini
My love story really sounds like a fairy tale story. I fell in love with Sonia in the air when I was traveling to Madras. She was sitting alone looking absolutely stunning in a pink outfit in the first row. The moment I saw her I knew that I had to be with her. Luckily the seat next to her was not occupied so I asked the air hostess to shift me there and I am thankful that she did. When I went to sit next to her she smiled at me. I introduced myself and then we talked through the entire journey. She gave me her number and that's when I knew that I had her love. We are engaged now and will soon get married.
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ROMANCE
Romance is the essence of a relationship. Without romance your love life will not exist. Romance is the true identity of your love. It brings out your true self and helps you be a better lover, husband and partner. Romance is a celebration of the life you live as part of a couple. It springs naturally and originates from within your heart. It makes you do things that you possibly couldn't have imagined to do otherwise. It shows you who you are and reminds you of the role you play in a relationship. Romance is not responsibility but it is caring about your responsibilities towards your lover and partner. Romance is the appreciation of two people who are celebrating the lucky coincidence that they found each other.
PASSION
The third stage is passion, which basically means a desire for another person, which has grown to an intensity that can't be ignored. This is often where an emotional relationship turns into a physical relationship. The passion stage is very important. For from here you will understand the true meaning and nature of your relationship. If there is no passion then its best to let go but if there is passion in your relationship then it is time to go on to the next stage.
COMMITMENT
The last stage is commitment. This is when you know that you want to spend your whole life with this person you love and you can do anything for him. It is when your whole world just revolves round your lover and you take a pledge to remain true to your mate throughout good and bad times, be by his side whenever he needs you.
Thus remember all these stages if you want your relationship to last forever. Believe me love is worth the effort. All the best!
REASONS PEOPLE FALL IN LOVE
What made you fall in love with your partner?
their personality
Their romantic nature
The affection towards their partner
The respect they've shown their partner
Everything!
Their physical features
Their sense of humor
The friendship they share
A sense of bonding between each other
Their partner provides a sense of security
What makes a person romantic?
Have you ever considered why different people have different levels of romance? Some couples are so romantic that they will do all sorts of crazy and inconceivable things while for some people just dining out and watching a nice movie is their definition of romance. While it is a fact that romance varies with each and every person and so sometimes we might just be envious of our friend's boyfriend or vice versa. Well to unravel this mystery we have brought for you the answer to this question. Researches in this field believe that there are six basic romantic personality types and so romance varies from person to person. So let us explore and find out what these romantic personality types are and see in which category we fall.
EROS
Eros are erotic lovers and they desire a high level of commitment, understanding and passion. The drawback of Eros is that they are dominating in a relationship but they are faithful and give fully and intensely in a relationship. They are highly romantic and are very attractive and beautiful persons.
LUDUS
For Ludus love is a game and they are never serious in relationships. Relationships do not have great depth and importance for them. Ludus can never commit themselves in relationships and like to flirt and play around with many. Ludus tends to avoid emotional intensity. Thus they have a tendency to see love as a game which can be played with diverse partners. For them long term relationships are unlikely.
STORGE
Storge look at love as pious and pure. Love for them is a great friendship, which can never be broken. For them love is really a deep friendship which is evolving and not a mysterious, mystical emotion. They are very loving, caring and respect their partners. They have unpretentious feeling about love. Storge do not like to haste love. For them love can take a long time to develop and can last a lifetime.
PRAGMA
Pragma are the logical, rational and sensible lovers. For Pragma the head is above the heart and thus they always think twice before making any decisions. Pragma would tend to focus on desired attributes of a partner. They do not like to be dependent and so would always plan to settle down in life and then have a serious relationship. Pragma tends to find satisfaction in long term relationships.
MANIA
Mania are crazy lovers. Their characteristics are high emotion, very possessive and highly dependent in love. They are highly intensive lovers and for them the whole world revolves round their lovers. They often have hidden low self-esteem and are highly suspicious. Mania tends to be over possessive at times and are capable to being violent lovers. Mania tends to have a lack of satisfaction in relationships.
AGAPE
Agape are very tender, gentle and devoted lovers. For them happiness lies in the happiness of their partners and they are ready to endure anything to keep their lover happy. They believe in sacrifice and would rather suffer themselves than let their lover suffer. They are intense lovers and very passionate.
BODY LANGUAGE IN LOVE
You are in love but you do not know whether she/he also loves you. Well one way is to ask him/her but if you are the shy kind then here is a way by which you can come to a positive or negative conclusion.
Try On Body Language
Focus
If you're interested in someone, you focus and pay attention. If you're not interested in someone, your attention wanders. So if you're sitting with the person you like, and he/she is looking at you when you're talking, that's a great sign. The eyes have it all and thus if the person is not interested he/she will keep looking out the window, or watching other girls/men.
Dilated eyes
As they say "The eyes are the window to the soul." Thus while you are talking to the person you like, your eye pupils dialate (get bigger) when you're excited. So if someone's eyes look really big, it shows they're interested. Thus keep your eyes on him/her and observe the eyes.
Lip and Mouth Activities
A girl might bite her lip gently, or run her tongue along her lip to show that she is interested. Some girls even do this deliberately to flirt, although it rarely looks natural. If you're a girl, don't try it, unless you're really sure it looks natural.
Hair
Fiddling and playing with hair is one way to show that you are interested. Girls wrap their fingers in their hair. Guys run their hands through their hair. Note that twirling your hair is more a sign of boredom and distraction.
Arms and Hands
If the girl keeps her arms or hands closed or crossed (which is normal if its cold) then that is a clear indication that she's not feeling comfortable. Arms that are out and away from her are less 'defensive'. Also, if the woman leaves her wrist-up, it's sort of an "I trust you" motion.
Legs
Women normally like to sit cross-legged and note that it doesn't mean that she isn't interested. So forget about that and concentrate on the toes because, toes tend to react to general body energy. So if someone's feeling bored and listless, they might just lay there. But if someone is feeling excited and energetic, the toe might make little circles or bounce. Women when are interested point their toes towards the man.
The Voice
The way someone talks and especially the tone of the voice is hugely important. It will instantly tell you whether: Are they bored and weary? Are they thoughtful and quiet? Are they enthused and interested? To find out whether the person is interested in you first watch your own speech and then watch how their speech changes. If someone wants to 'get along' with someone else, they naturally match their speech patterns together. If you're interested in someone, you start to naturally speak like them, using the same tone of voice, the same loudness/softness and speed, the same phrases even.
FLOWER POWER
When you are in love the first thing that you think of is giving flowers to your sweetheart. There is a deep connection between flowers and lovers. Every flower tenders a different message and every colour means something romantic. But our best flower is always rose. Though now-a-days both men and women send flowers to each other and there are no hard and fast rules on the variety of flower sent. But we have brought for you different types of flowers with the specific meaning attached to each, which you will find very interesting. And we have also brought for you information on our favourite flower rose.
'Lemon Blossoms' means 'I promise to be true to you.'
'Orange Blossoms' means 'You are pure and beautiful.'
'Peach Blossoms' means 'I will be your forever'
'Acacia' means 'You are made for me'
'Zinnia' means 'I miss you very much'
'Cactus' means 'My hearts burns with love for you'
'Red Tulip' means 'I am madly in love with you'
'Purple Lilac' means 'I am falling in love with you'
Rose: Rose is no doubt the most beautiful flower and thus our favourite. Rose denotes many meanings. It is ofcourse the flower of love, passion, giving and understanding but seen from the more realistic angle rose shows us the way of life. It shows how to stay beautiful and spread love and compassion while living on thorns. Thus the message that it spreads is always be happy and spread happiness even if you are going through a tough time.
The different colours of rose denote the following:
Red means passionate, sensual love.
White means innocence and pure spiritual love
Pink means friendship and the beginning of the love story.
Yellow means respect and gratitude.
Confused as to how many roses to give well read on.
1 denotes 'Love at first sight'.
2 denotes 'Mutual Feelings'.
3 denotes 'I Love You'.
7 denotes 'I'm madly in love with you'.
9 denotes 'We will be together as long as we live'.
10 denotes 'You are mine girl and you are lovely'.
11 denotes 'You are my princess and my treasured one'.
12 denotes 'Promise to be always by your side'
13 denotes 'We will be friends forever'.
15 denotes 'I'm really sorry...'
20 denotes 'I will be always faithful to you'
21 denotes 'I'm committed to you'
36 denotes 'I'll remember our romantic moments for as long as I live'
40 denotes 'I love you with all my heart'.
99 denotes 'I'll love you till the day I die'
100 denotes 'I will never leave you'
101 denotes 'You are my one and only'
108 denotes 'Will you marry me?'
999 denotes 'My love will last till the end of time'
Love At First Sight
Do you think love-at-first-sight happens only in movies and fairy tales? Skeptics will tell you that there is nothing called love at first sight and it doesn't exist. But the truth is love at first sight can happen to you anywhere, any place and at any time.
At first, you get attracted to the person and basically its physical attraction since this is what we first see of the person: it's his or her body that attracts or repulses us, whether we want it or not. However, this attraction can only move beyond sexual desire if admiration develops as we get to know the other. Finally, love survives the ravages of time and routine only if we maintain a degree of shared interests and activities. So after all even if you think that you have fallen in love with the person, your love will have to survive the test of time.
You know you've fallen for him when...
· Your mind starts spinning out of control and you can't stop thinking about him. All that you do is want to be with him every moment of the day.
· You tend to overlook your loved one's faults and weakness, secretly hoping that your love will be enough to fix them all.
· You're happy when he's there; you're terribly depressed when he's gone.
· Though you are not a very compromising person but being with him has changed you and you have become a more compromising and understanding person.
When you start dating the man of your dreams, it is quite natural that you will want to touch him, kiss him and be in his arms. Psychologists have noted the first instance of physical contact is initiated by the woman three times out of four, usually in the most subtle possible manner. A slight brush of the arm or the shoulder, for example, is usually enough to tell her man that it's his turn to take some physical initiative-and that his advances won't be turned down! His body movements will play a major part in expressing his pleasure at being in your company. You must have the ability to understand whether he likes your company or not and whether he is just as much interested in you as you are.
Following are a few experiences of our readers about Love-at-first-sight
I never used to believe in it but one day I was standing in a queue in the post office and that is when I saw him. He was filling in some form. At first I couldn't see his face but then he turned around and that was when our eyes met. I felt like my heart had stopped thumping and I kept on staring at him shamelessly. He looked away but I stood there like a statue. He turned again and smiled at me. That's when I came back to my senses and smiled back. I was absolutely shocked when I saw him coming towards me. He came up to me and asked me if I had a pen. He tells me now that he had to start a conversation so he asked for a pen. But the fact is love at first sight does exist and Ashish and I have experienced it.
Neha
I always knew that one day I will meet the man of my life and fall head over heals in love with him at first sight. And though it happened late but it did happen. I had gone to this wedding where I saw him. We were introduced through a common friend and the moment we saw each other we knew that we belonged together. We got married after 6 months and are very happy.
Malini
My love story really sounds like a fairy tale story. I fell in love with Sonia in the air when I was traveling to Madras. She was sitting alone looking absolutely stunning in a pink outfit in the first row. The moment I saw her I knew that I had to be with her. Luckily the seat next to her was not occupied so I asked the air hostess to shift me there and I am thankful that she did. When I went to sit next to her she smiled at me. I introduced myself and then we talked through the entire journey. She gave me her number and that's when I knew that I had her love. We are engaged now and will soon get married.
Compile & Edited by the Administrator
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References
01. The Season Dot Com
02. Bible
03. The Woman Magazine
04. How Loves Comes in this world
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